Anything you commit to for the long term has the potential to lose its luster. It’s natural to fall into routines, get stuck, or stop seeing the magic in the same thing that once made you feel alive. Falling out of love with your life, or some aspect of it, doesn’t mean you have to walk away. You can breathe new life into anything if it’s your intention to do so. Whether it’s your career, your hobby, a relationship, or life itself, it’s normal to forget what made you fall in love in the first place, but here are three ways to help you remember.
1. Take a break. It could be five minutes or it could be five years. It’s up to you to decide what’s necessary. When you step away from something or someone you’ve lost passion for, it gives you the opportunity to miss it and sometimes that’s all you need to go rushing back with open arms and a fresh perspective. Taking a break will also give you the clarity to recognize if there is something more that must be done, whether it means shaking things up, (see no. 2), or making a big change (no. 3). Space brings clarity and clarity brings the opportunity to see things for what they are, and sometimes that’s all you need to remember why you love what you love. Additionally, taking a break will help you make difficult decisions if that is what’s necessary. If you find that you feel better, more spacious, and excited about taking a different direction, then perhaps taking a break will show you that it’s time to walk away.
2. Shake it up. Once you’ve put a little space between you and what you’re trying to rekindle, you’ll be able to see the big picture—the one that reminds you why you were drawn to it in the first place and also see the potential for where it might go. Furthermore, with some space and a fresh take on things, you’ll usher in a new flow of creativity. Use that creativity to put a new spin on things: add something new, change the routine, or take away a part that’s no longer serving its purpose. Sometimes it’s the smallest things that make the biggest difference.
3. Make a Big Change. After you’ve taken a break, and tried shaking things up, you might realize that a big change is the only way to go. You might decide that you still carry the same passion, but you’d like to try it in a new light. For instance, if you teach art, but you’re tired of teaching, maybe it’s time to shift your focus—open a gallery or work on your own art portfolio. Within each passion, the possibilities are endless. Again, through space and clarity, you’ll be able to get creative with all the options that are available to you.
It’s normal to forget why you love what you love, but the beauty in forgetting is that you get to experience the love you have for it again and again in different ways as you evolve, your passion evolves, and life reveals new and exciting opportunities each time you remember.
I’ve taken my own advice with regard to this blog; I took a break, made a few changes, and made the decision to return to it with a fresh perspective and fresh ideas. I love it now more than ever, and I hope you will too!